For a man

For a man to claim he is not loved or even harbor the mere thought of inadequacy is to look God straight in his face and say, "Hey, I know you love me and wish well for me but frankly, this whole thing is a lie." We normally feel this way when we are betrayed probably in relationships or turned down at a job interview, a break up, divorce and even when struck with extreme poverty.

We begin to question the reality of his love and its credibility for to us, we are certain, he has shut his ears to our pleas and sees not our tears. In my world, I would term this as a faithless life. Just as spending a night in the garage does not make one a car, being bombarded with painful emotional seasons, empty pockets and comments that dent your inner being leaving you crashed does not make you any less a child of God.

I learned from a friend once who never allowed the love orchestrated by mortal man to define her moments of joy nor waver her faith in God. She would never let her heart be broken by a man nor would she let herself date anyone if she had no intention of marrying them. All this while I thought to myself, of course with a mind corrupted by the worldly views, how can one make it in life without the intimate love that exists between a man and a woman. I looked all around and the only babes and or dudes who looked closest to happiest were the ones dating, at least then. Probably I can say I was not mature enough because now I understand how that beloved friend of mine managed to beam with so much joy that seemed to show a deep sense of satisfaction derived from understanding that the Love that Lord has for each one of us supersedes that of our parents, our brethren and most of all spouses.

If only our teens and 'twentegers' could grasp this, we would not be having all these multiple and quantitative relationships (between 5-9 dates) before one settles for marriage all in the name of looking for love. Not that this whole concept is of no gain but that we clearly understand, no love of man can ever fill your heart for it will always lack in a way...may be then we could also be able to appreciate our spouses better.

The love we look for in a man/woman can not, and will never replace the Love God has for us, a failure to acknowledge this will leads us to expect miracle working spouses in the arena of Love.Haha