Contempt

We resent those that are our superiors, we get angry with those our level but hold in contempt those we dim lower than us! Its all a mix of disgust & anger the definition differs with whom its directed to. THERE MUST NEVER BE CONTEMPT in a relationship or marriage, only ANGER. For if one holds their spouse in contempt, it simply means they feel they are doing the other a favour to love them!!!! Mathmatically, this the LCM of a dying relationship. If you cannot honor and respect the one you love and call dear,....you are the only person you are lying to! In the book Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking, author Malcolm Gladwell discusses John Gottman's theories of how to predict which couples will stay married. Gottman's theory states that there are four major emotional reactions that are destructive to a marriage: defensiveness, stonewalling, criticism, and contempt. Among these four, Gottman considers contempt the most destructive of them all.