mind_blots

Barren love

2011-01-12T00:32:00.000-08:00

I have now clearly learned that the pains of one without beauty are as that of a barren woman! For though she can bare no children, nature's course imposes the burden of menstruation upon her like she were fertile...and so it goes with an unattractive being, even with their undesirable disposition, they still fall in love like any other and sadly have theirs eternally unreciprocated!

For a man

2009-04-02T21:49:00.000-07:00

For a man to claim he is not loved or even harbor the mere thought of inadequacy is to look God straight in his face and say, "Hey, I know you love me and wish well for me but frankly, this whole thing is a lie." We normally feel this way when we are betrayed probably in relationships or turned down at a job interview, a break up, divorce and even when struck with extreme poverty.

We begin to question the reality of his love and its credibility for to us, we are certain, he has shut his ears to our pleas and sees not our tears. In my world, I would term this as a faithless life. Just as spending a night in the garage does not make one a car, being bombarded with painful emotional seasons, empty pockets and comments that dent your inner being leaving you crashed does not make you any less a child of God.

I learned from a friend once who never allowed the love orchestrated by mortal man to define her moments of joy nor waver her faith in God. She would never let her heart be broken by a man nor would she let herself date anyone if she had no intention of marrying them. All this while I thought to myself, of course with a mind corrupted by the worldly views, how can one make it in life without the intimate love that exists between a man and a woman. I looked all around and the only babes and or dudes who looked closest to happiest were the ones dating, at least then. Probably I can say I was not mature enough because now I understand how that beloved friend of mine managed to beam with so much joy that seemed to show a deep sense of satisfaction derived from understanding that the Love that Lord has for each one of us supersedes that of our parents, our brethren and most of all spouses.

If only our teens and 'twentegers' could grasp this, we would not be having all these multiple and quantitative relationships (between 5-9 dates) before one settles for marriage all in the name of looking for love. Not that this whole concept is of no gain but that we clearly understand, no love of man can ever fill your heart for it will always lack in a way...may be then we could also be able to appreciate our spouses better.

The love we look for in a man/woman can not, and will never replace the Love God has for us, a failure to acknowledge this will leads us to expect miracle working spouses in the arena of Love.Haha

The beauty of a woman!

2009-03-27T06:34:00.000-07:00

Oh how beautiful art thee. Created in all splendor and glamor. The female of all species is nothing less than the most beautiful creation of all times. If words could do it better, may be we would all call our spouses by one word...beautiful! But look around you, based on what she does best have we chosen to name them...honey for those that always put more sugar than required in your tea, sweet heart for they that have a longing for candy, darling for those that faithfully execute the chores, dentist for those that relentlessly empty thy pockets and the list is endless. None the less, a woman is a beauty.

But hey wait a minute...More women down here on earth are deceived by their beauty than men are.!

Ladies can testify, record upon record on men they have met that practically lust and or crave for them courtesy of their outlook and yeah, I must say men find it hard to draw a line between LOVE & LUST as the latter takes precedence most of the time!Then outward beauty of a woman is most deceptive.To a man, upon seeing her, it seems like that is all he has ever needed...the body whose silhouette the moonlight worships, the flawless skin, the perfectly defined curves and all, not to forget the killer smiles and hypnotizing scents..etc.

Enough of the praise and worship, back to reality...why this beauty deceives the ladies more than the men is because they tend to focus on keeping up appearances, wear endless layers of makeup, spend nights perfecting their hair do and editing their nails like their lives depend on it for the PRAISE & WORSHIP from the viewers is worth more than the actuality of her innermost being. Certain that not all that glitters is Gold, men could afford to date carelessly but will not at any one time risk marrying carelessly for they, surprisingly, can see further than the outside beauty in a woman they choose to spend a lifetime with! He can play along with the charm as the lady thinks he is in some sort of trance or obsessed yet deep down its clear to him that spending a life with her is the greatest mistake he can ever make!!

For the love of the attention, affection and praise, what I choose to call [AAP], the externally beautiful female species will always evolve into bitterness and depression whenever that aspect of their lives goes unnoticed. Consequently, they will, for some reason always repel any man whose shortcomings are in respect to AAP. Since 90% of the men are slow reactors to emotions, I politely imply they end up in as many relationships and cannot afford to sustain even one..woe unto them if this goes on for a lifetime.

The internally beautiful species on the other hand might not have what we the men think we want in a woman in the prime of our youth. The media has excelled in painting what we would call an ideal chic but sadly, there is absolutely nothing they dare to mention on the moral character. Corrupted by a stereotyped image that glorifies the externally beautiful woman, man gets caught up in between the craving to satiate his transient desire for pleasure and the need to acknowledge the emptiness there in of the whole project. The internally beautiful woman thus will normally go unnoticed, though the externally cute one will normally go unmarried.

It takes a while to appreciate a lady that is internally beautiful as she, in most cases, will not have what it takes to catch a man's eye on the outside. However, when she is finally singled out from the many, her inner beauty slowly spills to her outside. As a man, you begin to see it even better than the cosmetically modified one of the externally beautiful woman and...alas, there comes your actual package.

I would thus say a woman that is only externally beautiful is like an empty package wrapped with beautiful ornaments, gold and diamonds..may be roses too...you get her, you get nothing at all...its the art of deception, seduction.

As it is said, when you marry, let it be someone you can talk and share a life with coz wen you are older and have done all there is to be done...talking is all there is between the two of you.

Meen, men, stop writing advice columns..

2008-03-03T04:57:00.000-08:00

Dear Walter:

I hope you can help me here. Last Wednesday I set off for work leaving
my husband in the house watching TV - as usual. I hadn't gone more than
a km down the road when my engine conked out and the car shuddered to a
halt. I walked back home to get my husband's help. When I got home I
couldn't believe my eyes. He was in the bedroom with a neighbour lady
making mad
passionate love to her. I am 36, my husband is 40 and we have been
married for fourteen years. When I confronted him, he broke down and
admitted that he'd been having an affair with her for the past six
months.
I told him to stop or I would leave him. He was retrenched from his job
six months ago and he says he has been feeling increasingly depressed
and worthless. I love him very much, but ever since I gave him the
ultimatum he has become increasingly distant. I don't feel I can get
through to him anymore.

Can you please help? I am desperate.
Sincerely,
Mrs. Sheila Y

Dear Sheila:

A car stalling after being driven a short distance can be caused by a
variety of faults with the engine. Start by checking that there is no
debris in the fuel line. If it is clear, check the jubilee clips holding
the vacuum pipes onto the inlet manifold. If none of these approaches
solves the problem, it could be that the fuel pump itself is faulty,
causing low delivery pressure to the carburetor float chamber.

I hope this helps.

Walter

Just married d-day

2008-03-03T02:48:00.000-08:00

Your wedding day...one of the days we would evidently single out as the
day-to-remember.

Really?

Lets go to the opinion polls.... my study is more of a Venus village category but thats
just all there was for my sample space..

Results

10% of either sex said indeed indeed, it is the most memorable day in life
99% of the ladies said its 'their' day to remember..please note, their day!
82% of the men lamented, saying its is, if not the longest, one of the longest days in their lives.!

Any statistician could agree with me that there is no need to compare any further.! Its clear that this is the day when, as they say, 'Romeo from mars meets Juliet from...'

Remarks!.. my personal remarks..

There are things that have to happen for a bond to strengthen between two parties, politely addressed as spouses andthe nature of the relationship dictates the terms and conditions, the kind that do not seek either party's subscription.

Yes the man is tormented by the lengthy recitals in the church and oblivious of the commitments he utters out, the flashes from the cameras… ooh those still moments of life when all disagreement is graphically obscured, the smiles of they that supposedly wish you well mixed with those from the backstabbers BUT please recall, the lady is, at this moment, a conqueror...the world must know that she now has 100% exclusive ownership of the man and all that comes with him, her hearts desire, her definition of love is therein being fulfilled...No wonder, just to jolt you into the world of bravery, the ladies love to remind the men, "to marry is to be man enough!"

Life begins to be spent. No longer according your dream but to your dreams.

I would like to take no sides for now but simply drop in a remark or two…I forced to believe the wedding day is probably an all-lady's-day as:

90% of the arrangements are made by her, 90% of the payments by him.
95% of the decisions and choices are made by her, 2% him, 3% her relatives.
There is only one peg-boy, 4 flower girls and up to 6 maids.
Plus a matron..
The glamour of the day is defined 95% by how smart she was, not he was.
The man normally has a black suit on...often a colour associated with sad moments and the lady, 80% of the time white(a puritans view of purity)

And hey dear men, did u notice that no one is actually interested in your wedding pictures take a count, thereafter, fill me in on how many male friends show up to reminisce the wedding day in comparison with the female counterparts, who, for the sake of simply not frequenting your home, will purchase 99% of your wedding DVD's and even create special BACKUP COPIES...just incase!!

The end justifies the means...the ladies need it, the men have it so why not make a pact?
Indeed to wed is to be man enough and there is no greater risk.

Where you belong..

2007-06-29T23:39:00.000-07:00

we all belong someplace, or even better to someone at one time or another. Daily interaction with people of dissimilar personalities makes it ocular that vultures gather where there is a corpse..

"A man that does not want to be touched by a monkey's tail should not join in their dance!"

Its amazing to learn that the people you have around you have been drawn to you. Like a bee is drawn to a flower, you either have what they like or you are appear like you do. Some will not stick around wen you run out of nectar.Others might stick around cause they haven't found a better option- as yet.
You make more friends with your ears than with your mouth. However, making and keeping are two separate things so we are continously spent by the effort to retain them. Bishop T.D Jakes believes we need not hold on to someone who can live without you cause if they can, what makes you think you can't live without them.

"A false friend and a shadow stay around only while the sun shines"..Franklin

I must conclude with a confession that my 'human theory' needs an update ..a wise man does not waste a muscle to chase a fly from waste...bt if it falls on your food..thats a different thing.!

All done effort keeps ego...

men men....F + M = Marriage?

2007-06-25T21:53:00.000-07:00

…they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion…1 Corinth 7:9.

Now that is what Paul said in the Bible not just to the man of his time, but to us too. It is still a wonder why the masculine Species has continuously been found lacking in the area of commitment to marriage!

At least 70% of all men that get into marriage are driven by 90%, the desire to quench that fiery passion and 10%, other factors. However, the mind of man does not become oblivious of his prior fears birthed by his perception of what marriage will cost him; sacrifice of self, the loss of privacy, embracing irrational archives of 99.9% feminine shopping lists and more... Apart from that, on the coming of their first child, a greater fear creeps in, the fear of loosing the desired attention of from his wife! Being the fairer sex, the woman's nature drives her attention to the new born and while she increasingly gets consumed by it, the man's fears awaken!

Unfortunately, it brings along with it a new prompting, the urge to get out of marriage becomes even stronger than the one that got him into it..
His understanding of love being black & white (as we all already know) he joins the multitude!. No wonder, more than 70% of the married men wish they weren't married
and just a few more single men are out there willing to take the risk of getting married because of the fear that half their lives will be invested in strategic planning on how to get the most out of it with the least input or get out!

Well, as we all know, no one writes to be understood but rather to understand...marriage is not a bad thing… give it a try, after all,

"Our friends seldom profit us but they make us feel safe....
Marriage is a scheme to accomplish exactly that same end."(Henry Louis M.)

Mansons

2007-06-24T09:09:00.000-07:00

Alas,

A non-political, non-religious gathering that is out to create a New World Order! Broken into lodges since 1717, this sect is not as close to what it claims to be! Gatherings claim to desist from political or religious discussions and pose as liberal in these aspects.Referred to as Satan's Kingdom by the 19th century papacy, the sect has steadily blossomed into a cult.

Like scientology, the members are sworn to secrecy and extreme measures are effected on breaking the oath!! The mansons, given the level of the etrant..1st level..the toungue is cut out, 2nd, the heart is ripped out, 3rd....the bowls are roasted on breaking the oath!!! In total, there are 33 levels though mostly 13 are in use

There are a series of rituals carried out by this group that claims to worship a supreme being (God) who is called 'jahbulon'..'Jah' for hebrew jehovah, 'bul' for the egyptian god..i think of the sun..cant quite recall@##..~ and 'on' for the underworld god.!!

Overall, the sect does not allow women to join as they call themselves the 'brotherhood' ... the fairer sex (women) would compromise their mission..the mission to rule the world through the most powerful political leaders! Did you know that George Washington was a Freemanson!.. Truman too..the list is endless

...emotional telescope...u need it.

2006-08-14T07:45:00.000-07:00

Any man shud be frank enough with themselves not to place their entire judgement on feelings for they are the worst foundation upon which a healthy minded being can place their trust

Always allow room for disappointment for it is always more sure than the contrary!Embrace it when it comes but never let it pin u down, rather utilise it as a stepping stone to advanced layers of growth so you can have more sober judgements in the future.

Put all your hopes before in one basket?!...let me give u a hint of what awaits such an unwise judgement! Well may be not.Lets say some things are better left unsaid for the sake of both one's conscience and personality!
Words are like fire, though it does alot of good..it has as much potential to harm when misused.
Skeletons look best in coffins and only a fool 'wise' enough to return to their vomit can waste their strength on diggin them up, especially if they are a disparagement.!

"Forewarned is Forearmed.."

To all ya staunch SINGLES..-@#$***>>

2006-06-20T00:28:00.000-07:00

"....The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration.He is so full of himself!.." Ooops did i say he?..

Sort yourself

2006-06-20T00:09:00.000-07:00

To repeat what others have said, requires education, to challenge it,
requires brains...

Does it ever occur to you that half your life is spent repeating the bare works of those that were before you..!! Man has always been enslaved by either the ideologies he falls for or the deceit of his ego.....for we all knw

"Nothing is easier than self-deceit. For what each man wishes, that he also believes to be true."
Mine of all hopes is to have man realise that some day, there will be an awakening to reality for the things not seen to man are more real than those he can see!!

Ever wondered why?

2006-04-29T01:40:00.000-07:00

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Try it out

...power cuts bak home!..

2006-04-06T06:43:00.000-07:00

A man dies and goes to hell. There he finds that there
is a different hell for each country. He decides he'll
pick the least painful to spend his eternity. He goes
to Germany Hell and asks, "What do they do here?"

He is told "first they put you in an electric chair
for an hour. Then they lay you on a bed of nails for
another hour. Then the German devil comes in and whips
you for the rest of the day". The man does not like
the sound of that at all so he moves on. He checks out
the USA Hell as well as the Russia Hell and many more.
He discovers that they are all similar to the German
hell.

Then he comes to the Ugandan Hell and finds that there
is a long line of people waiting to get in. Amazed, he
asks, "What do they do here?" He is told "first they
put you in an electric chair for an hour. Then they
lay you on a bed of nails for another hour. The
Ugandan devil comes in and whips you for the rest of
the day. "But that is exactly the same as all the
other hells why are there so many people waiting to
get in?" asks the man. "Because of load shedding and
the low-levels of water at the power stations there is
never any electricity, so the electric chair does not
work. Because of high corruption and poor procurement
systems, the nails were paid for but have never been
supplied, so the bed is comfortable to sleep on. And,
on top of it, the Ugandan devil used to be a civil
servant, so he comes in, signs his time sheet and goes
back ‘home’ to read newspapers, serf the internet and
do other private businesses." There is no beating
here, it is as comfortable as ‘heaven’

.........UFO reloaded..

2006-03-31T06:08:00.000-08:00

On March 31, 1989 thousands of motorists driving on the highway outside London looked up in the air to see a glowing flying saucer descending on their city. Many of them pulled to the side of the road to watch the bizarre craft float through the air. The saucer finally landed in a field on the outskirts of London where local residents immediately called the police to warn them of an alien invasion...what better option!!!?

Soon the police arrived on the scene, and one brave officer approached the craft. When a door in the craft popped open, and a small, silver-suited figure emerged, the policeman - brave policeman ran in the opposite direction!!!
....The saucer turned out to be a hot-air balloon that had been specially built to look like a UFO by Richard Branson, the 36-year-old chairman of Virgin Records.

........hey, loosen up..its just an old time April 1 joke

loose it!...

2006-03-28T02:06:00.000-08:00

`~......life's flactuations......~#!!

Life moves so fast to appreciate its beauty.
Busy trying to survive!? Huh forget not that ur funneral marks the zenith...!

Hey, you do not keep anything for a special ocassion because everyday that goes by is a special occasion!

....so while you get busy,

"...spend your health making your wealth & u surely will end up spending your wealth repairng your health...!"

"Woe unto the soul whose place of rest beyond this life is not certain.......!"

Chains of Addiction!

2006-03-27T21:18:00.000-08:00

Plight of a soul at war~*@

Strange things happen around us that cannot be explained
When you do not stand up against what you believe is wrong,you become a prey to its undesirable ideologies.
Like a captive, you are dragged along the thorny trails of its reverberating condemnation of your incapacitation.

Your interests, beliefs and values are forever compromised and yourlife is drained on account of your captor's pleasure.

A simple 'yes' or 'no' draws an ocular line of definition. Every soul traversing the earth has the power to use these words! Sadly, only a few exploit it and are thus liberated!

All that fall short of applying it remain prisoners of their carnal minds.

Opinion_rack!

$#...did I hear u say love...!

Its always been a complex web., many fall fast in and just as fast out! For a greater part, I think it still remains a struggle between two genders..the gents strive to quench the fires of their lust while ladies in addition to seeking affection try to excavate as much to silence their materialistic drive.....lets say each at the cost of the other sex